Decorative Garters: Wedding Must Have or Thing of the Past?

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I can't remember if we did a garter toss, the bouquet I basically tossed straight to a cousin. And as for the chicken dance and YMCA it was in our contract with the dj, if they were played I wasn't paying.

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JMed wrote:
I love the first one too! We didn't do either... Between the guys and girls, we had maybe 5 single people at our wedding.... laugh

I did give my bouquet to the couple married the longest. We did a dance of all the married couples and had people sit down as their "years married" was called. Ended up being the hubby's parents (which we knew ahead of time) but it was great seeing them out there dancing alone!

Never heard the tradition of giving the flowers to the longest married. Actually if you have a duplicate it is kind of sweet. I would rather that than seeing, as my brothers called it, " the crash of desperate women" going for the flowers.

Here's a tidbit that probably won't change your day. The groom doing the reaching with hands (or teeth) for the garter is a composite of two traditions: 1) in ancient times, the couple were put naked into the bed and all the guest MADE sure, so the woman's privacy wasn't a concern, AND (my all time favorite disgusting tradition), 2) The woman had no personal rights so her husband could do anything he wanted to her, and yes, even in public. How we managed to turn that into a joyous reception tradition is beyond me.

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oldtink wrote:
JMed wrote:
I love the first one too! We didn't do either... Between the guys and girls, we had maybe 5 single people at our wedding.... laugh

I did give my bouquet to the couple married the longest. We did a dance of all the married couples and had people sit down as their "years married" was called. Ended up being the hubby's parents (which we knew ahead of time) but it was great seeing them out there dancing alone!

Never heard the tradition of giving the flowers to the longest married. Actually if you have a duplicate it is kind of sweet. I would rather that than seeing, as my brothers called it, " the crash of desperate women" going for the flowers.

Here's a tidbit that probably won't change your day. The groom doing the reaching with hands (or teeth) for the garter is a composite of two traditions: 1) in ancient times, the couple were put naked into the bed and all the guest MADE sure, so the woman's privacy wasn't a concern, AND (my all time favorite disgusting tradition), 2) The woman had no personal rights so her husband could do anything he wanted to her, and yes, even in public. How we managed to turn that into a joyous reception tradition is beyond me.

I will admit, I took a nasty fall trying to catch the bouquet at a friends wedding before the hubby proposed and it's on video... woe is me. In my defense there was a 6 year old on the floor with NO BUSINESS being out there that stepped in front of me and I was trying to avoid her... He did propose 2 months later.. maybe the desperation and the fall helped! rolling

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