Life Is Too Short..Go For It....

Fri, 03/14/2014 - 09:20

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Hi king,

I am so sorry for your loss. I send my love and wishes.
As for your topic me and my DF have lost a lot of family members over the last 5 years and I would rather get in to debt and be happy and live my dreams then end up the richest guy in the cemetery.

Fri, 03/14/2014 - 10:37

King Fergus

Philhowelldesign wrote:

Hi king,

I am so sorry for your loss. I send my love and wishes.
As for your topic me and my DF have lost a lot of family members over the last 5 years and I would rather get in to debt and be happy and live my dreams then end up the richest guy in the cemetery.

Well said...

Fri, 03/14/2014 - 10:57

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I am so sorry for yours and your friend's family's loss. My 86 year old mother always tells me to go while I still can and I do! Life is so short not to enjoy yourself. Unfortunately I find that more and more people are afraid to live simply because they are afraid of their future. My life was like that until I had someone close to me suddenly die and my whole perspective changed. I plan on stopping and looking closely at the flowers, bugs, birds, sounds scents and colours. I don't want to miss a thing!

Fri, 03/14/2014 - 11:39

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I'm spending my kids' inheritance.

I suspect in the end we'll regret more what we didn't do than what we did.

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Fri, 03/14/2014 - 11:40

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Sorry to hear that news KF.Having been through something similar last year we are going for broke with our 2015 trip and going to try and fit in as many things we have prviously put off as possible (sleep is over-rated).The only thing stopping us from going every year is the cost (Not all of us are as rich as you royalty ).
It does however make you appreciate the small things also.

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Fri, 03/14/2014 - 12:40

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Sorry to hear that news KF.Having been through something similar last year we are going for broke with our 2015 trip and going to try and fit in as many things we have prviously put off as possible (sleep is over-rated).The only thing stopping us from going every year is the cost (Not all of us are as rich as you royalty ).
It does however make you appreciate the small things also.

Cheers Mr Ferret...LOL..Wish I was that rich..Flights were paid by cash..WDW holiday is on a new visa we got..18 months no interest...Plus my DS may be starting work soon after he leaves school this year so it may be a last chance for a family Disney vacation...

Fri, 03/14/2014 - 13:33

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So sorry for your loss. It's always hard to lose someone, but when someone is that young, it really makes you stop and think.

I do hold that same philosophy but it took me having medical issues for it to really sink in. I have 3 autoimmune diseases that have developed over the last 5 years. It keeps me in pain every day with one of them that has eaten into my tissues and muscles. I had always said I was going to be one of those people that did things and didn't wait, but alas, I let life get in the way. Work, kids, stuff. It was always, "Well someday, when things calm down. When I'm sure the refrigerator will not die on me...when I have more time..."

So after dealing with everything and medical bills the last couple of years especially, I came to the realization that "someday" may not come and I wanted to live now. Who knows? 5 years from now, I may not be able to move much, so my "someday" is "today" now.

That is why we will be doing DL this year, although we had already scheduled an 8 day cruise before this opportunity came along. I debated for a few minutes knowing it would be hard financially to pull both of them off within 6 weeks of each other but in the end, me and DH both agreed it was a great opportunity and that we work hard.

It's time to play hard.

Fri, 03/14/2014 - 13:36

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I am so sorry King! Life does step in sometimes, doesn't it?
I agree. Sometimes you just have to do it. We always try to make sure we can afford it, but after our past year, we said what the heck, let's just go. You just never know when something will happen and you won't get to go again whether health or financial. Life is about memories, and we want to get as much in as possible while we are young!! LOL

Fri, 03/14/2014 - 13:46

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I'm so sorry King Fergus but like you (and others) I also believe you better do what you want when you can because who knows what tomorrow will bring. I'm not saying do stuff so you are living in the street but if you really want to do something do it.

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Fri, 03/14/2014 - 13:51

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VelcroPooh wrote:

So sorry for your loss. It's always hard to lose someone, but when someone is that young, it really makes you stop and think.

I do hold that same philosophy but it took me having medical issues for it to really sink in. I have 3 autoimmune diseases that have developed over the last 5 years. It keeps me in pain every day with one of them that has eaten into my tissues and muscles. I had always said I was going to be one of those people that did things and didn't wait, but alas, I let life get in the way. Work, kids, stuff. It was always, "Well someday, when things calm down. When I'm sure the refrigerator will not die on me...when I have more time..."

So after dealing with everything and medical bills the last couple of years especially, I came to the realization that "someday" may not come and I wanted to live now. Who knows? 5 years from now, I may not be able to move much, so my "someday" is "today" now.

That is why we will be doing DL this year, although we had already scheduled an 8 day cruise before this opportunity came along. I debated for a few minutes knowing it would be hard financially to pull both of them off within 6 weeks of each other but in the end, me and DH both agreed it was a great opportunity and that we work hard.

It's time to play hard.

Good for you..Hope you have a magical vacation..

Fri, 03/14/2014 - 13:53

King Fergus

93boomer wrote:

I am so sorry King! Life does step in sometimes, doesn't it?
I agree. Sometimes you just have to do it. We always try to make sure we can afford it, but after our past year, we said what the heck, let's just go. You just never know when something will happen and you won't get to go again whether health or financial. Life is about memories, and we want to get as much in as possible while we are young!! LOL

So true Boomer..And you also have a magical vacation...

Fri, 03/14/2014 - 13:54

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kathys wrote:

I'm so sorry King Fergus but like you (and others) I also believe you better do what you want when you can because who knows what tomorrow will bring. I'm not saying do stuff so you are living in the street but if you really want to do something do it.

That's it..I'm moving out...Rucksack packed..magical flute included...Hi Ho..Hi Ho..

Fri, 03/14/2014 - 14:28

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So sorry for your loss. You need to enjoy life and live in the moment. Do what makes you happy and laugh everyday.

Fri, 03/14/2014 - 15:11

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I too am sorry for your loss and hope his memory is a reminder of living life as we are blessed with it.
Both my DH and I are musicians and teachers and we have lost many whom we loved and admired, but their gifts of music and joy are what we focus on these days.
I also experienced a tragedy that no teacher or school should. A very disturbed young man came into our school and shot our principal. I saw the last shot and gave aid to my friend, but the injuries were too severe. He was two weeks younger than I, and we were just a month away from 50. The same morning one of my students died in a car accident and so the rest of the year and for years following (now 7) it's hard to remember the time before. But I had the joy of teaching my friend's kids and had so many wonderful memories that I know that is how he wants us to remember him the place we all loved.

During that time of healing, there were so many counselors and doctors offering pills to sleep and cope and anti-anxiety and so on. I just didn't think I could go that route, so I called my old college teacher, where my sons were also going, and asked him if he could use me in some capacity as a musician. He didn't hesitate but plopped into principal oboe in two orchestras (I hadn't had a reed in my mouth in many a moon so the learning curve was HIGH). I played Dvorak, Beethovan, Mozart, and so many great composers while I was still teaching. I healed through the music. And later that year I went to Disney and smiled and laughed and listen to more music. We remember best with smiles and joy, not in sadness. That is not the way they would want us to feel.

Do you want to be remembered in sadness or in joy?

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Fri, 03/14/2014 - 15:17

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Oldtink...I am so sorry and I can only imagine how difficult that year was and how there must be constant reminder when you walk through the doors. But yes we should always remember the joy that a friend or family no longer with us gave us and smile. Like you that is what I believe that is what they would want from us as that is what I expect from those that I leave behind...to remember the good times and all the laughs.

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Fri, 03/14/2014 - 15:30

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kathys wrote:

Oldtink...I am so sorry and I can only imagine how difficult that year was and how there must be constant reminder when you walk through the doors. But yes we should always remember the joy that a friend or family no longer with us gave us and smile. Like you that is what I believe that is what they would want from us as that is what I expect from those that I leave behind...to remember the good times and all the laughs.

I retired at the end of last year and yes, there are times when I think of him. But, I remember his laughter, I remember his pride in our school (he graduated from there too), I remember his pride in his kids, and I remember his smile. I am a better person because I knew him and we can't ask for anymore in life than to have made this a better place for others.

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Fri, 03/14/2014 - 15:40

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Oldtink...very well said...gave me goosebumps.

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Fri, 03/14/2014 - 16:01

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oldtink wrote:

I too am sorry for your loss and hope his memory is a reminder of living life as we are blessed with it.
Both my DH and I are musicians and teachers and we have lost many whom we loved and admired, but their gifts of music and joy are what we focus on these days.
I also experienced a tragedy that no teacher or school should. A very disturbed young man came into our school and shot our principal. I saw the last shot and gave aid to my friend, but the injuries were too severe. He was two weeks younger than I, and we were just a month away from 50. The same morning one of my students died in a car accident and so the rest of the year and for years following (now 7) it's hard to remember the time before. But I had the joy of teaching my friend's kids and had so many wonderful memories that I know that is how he wants us to remember him the place we all loved.

During that time of healing, there were so many counselors and doctors offering pills to sleep and cope and anti-anxiety and so on. I just didn't think I could go that route, so I called my old college teacher, where my sons were also going, and asked him if he could use me in some capacity as a musician. He didn't hesitate but plopped into principal oboe in two orchestras (I hadn't had a reed in my mouth in many a moon so the learning curve was HIGH). I played Dvorak, Beethovan, Mozart, and so many great composers while I was still teaching. I healed through the music. And later that year I went to Disney and smiled and laughed and listen to more music. We remember best with smiles and joy, not in sadness. That is not the way they would want us to feel.

Do you want to be remembered in sadness or in joy?

Thanks for your story..

Fri, 03/14/2014 - 18:07

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King Fergus wrote:

oldtink wrote:
I too am sorry for your loss and hope his memory is a reminder of living life as we are blessed with it.
Both my DH and I are musicians and teachers and we have lost many whom we loved and admired, but their gifts of music and joy are what we focus on these days.
I also experienced a tragedy that no teacher or school should. A very disturbed young man came into our school and shot our principal. I saw the last shot and gave aid to my friend, but the injuries were too severe. He was two weeks younger than I, and we were just a month away from 50. The same morning one of my students died in a car accident and so the rest of the year and for years following (now 7) it's hard to remember the time before. But I had the joy of teaching my friend's kids and had so many wonderful memories that I know that is how he wants us to remember him the place we all loved.

During that time of healing, there were so many counselors and doctors offering pills to sleep and cope and anti-anxiety and so on. I just didn't think I could go that route, so I called my old college teacher, where my sons were also going, and asked him if he could use me in some capacity as a musician. He didn't hesitate but plopped into principal oboe in two orchestras (I hadn't had a reed in my mouth in many a moon so the learning curve was HIGH). I played Dvorak, Beethovan, Mozart, and so many great composers while I was still teaching. I healed through the music. And later that year I went to Disney and smiled and laughed and listen to more music. We remember best with smiles and joy, not in sadness. That is not the way they would want us to feel.

Do you want to be remembered in sadness or in joy?

Thanks for your story..

Your Majesty -
If it means anything, in just the few days I have been on this wonderful site, your sense of humor and obvious joy of life already made me laugh and feel good. So thanks from an ocean away! (In the background the song "It's a great big beautiful tomorrow" just happens to be playing in the background as I write this - omen?).

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Fri, 03/14/2014 - 18:38

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Very well said oldtink

Fri, 03/14/2014 - 20:03

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My condolences to you King Fergus. I like everyone agree about doing things now instead of waiting. I returned to the most magic place on earth after a 5 year hiatus and I decided that I would not let it go that long again. I plan on returning the fall of 2015 and will probably go myself. I am looking forward to going very slow because I want to do things in my speed and on my time. Life is too short.

Fri, 03/14/2014 - 23:13

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We kinda did this with our honeymoon in January.

2nd marriage for me, first for the hubby... We paid for our wedding ourselves. Honeymoon was a 7 day cruise which was pretty inexpensive but we didn't hold back on the ship or the islands. We wanted to have fun, we wanted the experiences and I said to him "What if we never get to do this again?" So fun we had.

We now have a WDW trip and a DCL trip booked and I plan on saving where I can and letting loose on the trips. We do lots of other things throughout the year and we don't plan on cutting back too much but the "big" trips are priorities for us.

As a wise old friend of mine says... The money ain't going with you when you go...

So sorry for your loss King Fergus

oldtink, what you mentioned about KF's sense of humor and joy for life is exactly what I said in an earlier post before I read this, I guess he must be doing something right!!!

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Sat, 03/15/2014 - 09:38

King Fergus

oldtink wrote:

King Fergus wrote:
oldtink wrote:
I too am sorry for your loss and hope his memory is a reminder of living life as we are blessed with it.
Both my DH and I are musicians and teachers and we have lost many whom we loved and admired, but their gifts of music and joy are what we focus on these days.
I also experienced a tragedy that no teacher or school should. A very disturbed young man came into our school and shot our principal. I saw the last shot and gave aid to my friend, but the injuries were too severe. He was two weeks younger than I, and we were just a month away from 50. The same morning one of my students died in a car accident and so the rest of the year and for years following (now 7) it's hard to remember the time before. But I had the joy of teaching my friend's kids and had so many wonderful memories that I know that is how he wants us to remember him the place we all loved.

During that time of healing, there were so many counselors and doctors offering pills to sleep and cope and anti-anxiety and so on. I just didn't think I could go that route, so I called my old college teacher, where my sons were also going, and asked him if he could use me in some capacity as a musician. He didn't hesitate but plopped into principal oboe in two orchestras (I hadn't had a reed in my mouth in many a moon so the learning curve was HIGH). I played Dvorak, Beethovan, Mozart, and so many great composers while I was still teaching. I healed through the music. And later that year I went to Disney and smiled and laughed and listen to more music. We remember best with smiles and joy, not in sadness. That is not the way they would want us to feel.

Do you want to be remembered in sadness or in joy?

Thanks for your story..

Your Majesty -
If it means anything, in just the few days I have been on this wonderful site, your sense of humor and obvious joy of life already made me laugh and feel good. So thanks from an ocean away! (In the background the song "It's a great big beautiful tomorrow" just happens to be playing in the background as I write this - omen?).

That's very touching..thank you...You've now made my day...Here's to a magical saturday, and a great big beautiful tomorrow .

Sat, 03/15/2014 - 09:42

King Fergus

JMed wrote:

We kinda did this with our honeymoon in January.

2nd marriage for me, first for the hubby... We paid for our wedding ourselves. Honeymoon was a 7 day cruise which was pretty inexpensive but we didn't hold back on the ship or the islands. We wanted to have fun, we wanted the experiences and I said to him "What if we never get to do this again?" So fun we had.

We now have a WDW trip and a DCL trip booked and I plan on saving where I can and letting loose on the trips. We do lots of other things throughout the year and we don't plan on cutting back too much but the "big" trips are priorities for us.

As a wise old friend of mine says... The money ain't going with you when you go...

So sorry for your loss King Fergus

oldtink, what you mentioned about KF's sense of humor and joy for life is exactly what I said in an earlier post before I read this, I guess he must be doing something right!!!

That's it...When Scotland ( If ) gets it's independence in September this year,I'am gonna run for president...I might run the country into huge financial debt,but at least everyone will be laughing...

Sat, 03/15/2014 - 10:15

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King Fergus wrote:

JMed wrote:
We kinda did this with our honeymoon in January.

2nd marriage for me, first for the hubby... We paid for our wedding ourselves. Honeymoon was a 7 day cruise which was pretty inexpensive but we didn't hold back on the ship or the islands. We wanted to have fun, we wanted the experiences and I said to him "What if we never get to do this again?" So fun we had.

We now have a WDW trip and a DCL trip booked and I plan on saving where I can and letting loose on the trips. We do lots of other things throughout the year and we don't plan on cutting back too much but the "big" trips are priorities for us.

As a wise old friend of mine says... The money ain't going with you when you go...

So sorry for your loss King Fergus

oldtink, what you mentioned about KF's sense of humor and joy for life is exactly what I said in an earlier post before I read this, I guess he must be doing something right!!!

That's it...When Scotland ( If ) gets it's independence in September this year,I'am gonna run for president...I might run the country into huge financial debt,but at least everyone will be laughing...

I suggest a fact finding mission to WDW when you get in power and don't forget to take your loyal redneck advisor ... all purely work (honest)

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Sat, 03/15/2014 - 10:59

King Fergus

Mrferret wrote:

King Fergus wrote:
JMed wrote:
We kinda did this with our honeymoon in January.

2nd marriage for me, first for the hubby... We paid for our wedding ourselves. Honeymoon was a 7 day cruise which was pretty inexpensive but we didn't hold back on the ship or the islands. We wanted to have fun, we wanted the experiences and I said to him "What if we never get to do this again?" So fun we had.

We now have a WDW trip and a DCL trip booked and I plan on saving where I can and letting loose on the trips. We do lots of other things throughout the year and we don't plan on cutting back too much but the "big" trips are priorities for us.

As a wise old friend of mine says... The money ain't going with you when you go...

So sorry for your loss King Fergus

oldtink, what you mentioned about KF's sense of humor and joy for life is exactly what I said in an earlier post before I read this, I guess he must be doing something right!!!

That's it...When Scotland ( If ) gets it's independence in September this year,I'am gonna run for president...I might run the country into huge financial debt,but at least everyone will be laughing...

I suggest a fact finding mission to WDW when you get in power and don't forget to take your loyal redneck advisor ... all purely work (honest)

You and Mrs F will be my food advisors...LOL..

Sat, 03/15/2014 - 11:00

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King Fergus wrote:

Mrferret wrote:
King Fergus wrote:
JMed wrote:
We kinda did this with our honeymoon in January.

2nd marriage for me, first for the hubby... We paid for our wedding ourselves. Honeymoon was a 7 day cruise which was pretty inexpensive but we didn't hold back on the ship or the islands. We wanted to have fun, we wanted the experiences and I said to him "What if we never get to do this again?" So fun we had.

We now have a WDW trip and a DCL trip booked and I plan on saving where I can and letting loose on the trips. We do lots of other things throughout the year and we don't plan on cutting back too much but the "big" trips are priorities for us.

As a wise old friend of mine says... The money ain't going with you when you go...

So sorry for your loss King Fergus

oldtink, what you mentioned about KF's sense of humor and joy for life is exactly what I said in an earlier post before I read this, I guess he must be doing something right!!!

That's it...When Scotland ( If ) gets it's independence in September this year,I'am gonna run for president...I might run the country into huge financial debt,but at least everyone will be laughing...

I suggest a fact finding mission to WDW when you get in power and don't forget to take your loyal redneck advisor ... all purely work (honest)

You and Mrs F will be my food advisors...LOL..

Well seen as how you haven't been to that many eateries @WDW

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Sun, 03/16/2014 - 15:51

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King Fergus wrote:

Kinda brings it home that we should enjoy life as much as possible..Sorry if I sound morbid on this but I'am a great believer in doing it now and not putting it off...This is another reason I decided to visit my magic land this year and not next year..( to hell with the Visa card ) ... Or am I in financial meltdown...

I tend to not deny myself Disney - however there are a whole host of other things that I put off. My goal in 2014 has been to be more positive of a person and to listen to the universe when it speaks.

Sometimes you just have to do something - fate calls and you can see how the stars have been aligning all along. You have to move on that. You have to grab hold and take the ride. You have to run as fast as you can off that tall diving board and leap to the cold water below. It's terrifying and exhilarating all at the same time, and it's OK.

I recently took a HUGE leap of faith going after a client for one of the networks I work with, we got the project and things are moving ahead quickly, but I've been having that meltdown feeling a lot since the campaign started. Will we meet what seems like a huge financial goal? I just have to keep moving forward with passion and excitement - if you believe you just have to do it.

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