To vacation or not to vacation

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To vacation or not to vacation

My wife and I are celebrating our 21st wedding anniversary and are considering a quick 3 or 4 night trip to Vegas. The problem is our youngest child starts her senior year very soon and we don't want to miss any of her activities. Combining that with my odd work schedule, the only time we would be able to go is the day before our daughter's last first day of school, which she has said she would like us (namely her mother) to be home for. So...would you go or stay home?

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Honestly, I think I would stay home and be there for your daughter x

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I'd stay home if the only time you're able to go is over an event that your daughter specifically requested you be there for.

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How about a compromise? If you leave on her first day of school right after she leaves for school (be there in the morming but not when she comes home), would you still be able to go for 3 nights?

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I voted stay home. Just think of the money you might save! biggrin

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I voted to stay home too. Vegas will always be there, but your daughter will be off to university next year perhaps, and you will have plenty of opportunities to travel when your schedule permits. (I'm assuming you mean senior year of high school).

DH always worked crazy schedules too, and we celebrated events when we could, not when the calendar said.

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Stay home for the first day of school, and then schedule that trip to Vegas in a month, or two, or five, whenever your schedule permits and your daughter doesn't have a lot of activities.. You can celebrate your anniversary any time, doesn't have to be the actual date you were married.

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Why does she want you (your wife) there? To take pictures or something? Can't you just leave that day and still go for a few days?

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....if she has expressed this as being important to her......I would stay home.....I still remember disappointments in my parents not being around for certain school events

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I agree about not missing events she has, which is precisely why I proposed going the first week of school. Nothing ever happens then. Her marching band performances start very soon after that, though. I have cleared the entire year to allow for anything and everything she has and might have, and have already requested eight vacation days for things this fall and early winter that conflict with my work schedule. I guess I just don't understand the wanting-us-home-for-the-first-day-of-school thing. Nothing is going on then; she just wants us there to tell her goodbye in the morning (like I mentioned originally, it's really about my wife being there to tell her goodbye because she is home 98% of the time to wish her a good day). I'm going to guess it's a girl thing because I don't get that at all. The first day of school was always just another day to me, unless, of course, it was the first day at a new school. Clearly I'm in the minority.

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I'll go with the minority side...I think you should go on your vacation. Your daughter is old enough to get herself off to school and there is nothing all that special about the first day at her age. I'm sure she'll get over it if you go.

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I say go. I don't really understand her wanting you to stay home. If you will miss nothing but telling her hello and goodbye, I would go.

Man, I was WISHING my parents would go on a trip when my brother and I were in high school... banana Party time! First day of school or not! haha

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Eeyore wrote:
Man, I was WISHING my parents would go on a trip when my brother and I were in high school... banana Party time! First day of school or not! haha

Well you just settled that, they are staying home!

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I think I'd ask her why before making a decision. It could something that you/your dw has done on the first day of school since pre-k/kindergarten or maybe it's that you sit down to breakfast together or it could be something else that neither you nor wife think is important or a big deal but to your daughter it is. I say find out why she wants you home before making a decision.

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mrhub wrote:
Eeyore wrote:
Man, I was WISHING my parents would go on a trip when my brother and I were in high school... banana Party time! First day of school or not! haha

Well you just settled that, they are staying home!

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As much as I love to travel - if one of the kids seriously asked me to stay home - I would stay home.

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Thanks for your input. We opted to stay home. Okay, in reality, my wife opted for us to stay home. I would have been fine with going even though I know I would have felt mildly bad about it on the morning in question, albeit for about seventy-four seconds. Don't misunderstand me; I think we parents have a responsibility to give and give and give to our children, but just like everything else, there are limits. I also think we have a responsibility to our spouse and that relationship. In this instance, I felt like my wife and I deserved a few days away for ourselves. For me it outweighed hugging our daughter the first morning of her senior year of high school, even though she requested us to stay home for that. My wife, however, would have been miserable the entire trip, so there really was no reason to go.

It is still killing me, though; the airfare/hotel package normally would cost us $800+, but Southwest had a crazy promo for our area and we could have gotten it for less than $500. Urgh. Alas, we won't be going this year. It was the only time we could go for more than 72 hours, which is my absolute minimum even for Vegas. I will try my best to not hold this against either of the most important women in my life. wink